3 reasons open relationships may be key to lasting love

Some friends and I recently stumbled on the topic of monogamy as we listened to our girl vent about her messy breakup. In the midst of the bitch-fest, I asked what she would look for in the next guy, and her response started a heated debate: she said she was looking for her “person,” but that she wasn’t ready to restrict herself to sex with one dude for the rest of her life. While my friends and I discussed the concept of pledging one’s being and one’s vagina to one man, I found my arguments emerging in favor of open relationships.

Call me crazy, but here are a few reasons why I think it’s possible for couples to have open sex lives, while nurturing a loving relationship. Continue reading

5 myths about birth control dispelled

Ideally, every human with functional reproductive organs should be well versed on the basics of birth control from the moment they hit puberty. But if you’ve emerged from your teens with foggy information about pregnancy prevention, it’s not too late to get some clarity. Taking control of your reproductive health will help you get further in your career, thrive financially, and have better relationships – simply put, an unplanned pregnancy could seriously cramp your style.

Here are the top five myths about birth control you can write off as fiction, as well as some facts about how to have safer sex. Continue reading

4 telltale signs he’s now officially your boyfriend

4 telltale signs he's now your boyfriend // A Light Edit

In decades past, when a girl graduated from prospect to girlfriend, her guy would impart a token to mark the occasion: a promise ring, a class pin, a varsity jacket. But in a time when casual hookups, perpetual hangouts, and vague text messages abound, how’s a lady to know when that dude she’s seeing wants to make it official?

Although you can’t know for sure without inciting an awkward conversation about the parameters of your relationship, there are a few signs that indicate you two have become a real couple.

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5 subtle signs he wants to be just friends

5 subtle signs he wants to be just friends // A Light Edit

In a post-college age of co-ed gatherings, it can be difficult to suss out where you and that guy lie on the friendship/relationship continuum. Does your happy hour date qualify as a romantic-type date? Did that drunken hookup mean you’re on the fast-track to girlfriend status? Was your coworker’s roommate checking you out at that party?

While in most cases the guy you’re clicking with wants to knock boots, there are instances where you’re unknowingly in HIS friend zone. Here are some subtle signals he’s sending that indicate he considers you a platonic friend.

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3 subtle ways you discriminate against single friends

3 subtle ways you discriminate against single friends // A Light Edit

Gone are the days we ladies abandon our pals in favor of our boyfriends. Maintaining a balance between friendships and relationships is a telling sign of maturity. And although you can peacefully co-exist with your single friends today, you may be discriminating against them for their single status, without even noticing.

Here are three subtle ways you interact differently with your single buds than you might with your fellow couples. Continue reading

5 “friends with benefits” mistakes to avoid

5 "friends with benefits" mistakes to avoid // A Light Edit

So you’re single, independent, and sexy. You aren’t looking for a relationship, but you’re not ready to sign on for a one-night stand. It seems like a no-brainer to form an agreement with a fuck buddy. But don’t get too engrossed in the no-strings sex that you fall into the “friends with benefits” trap, where one party develops feelings that go unrequited.

Follow these rules to keep your fuck buddy arrangement carefree and fun.

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8 reasons to elope

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Logic would dictate that because attending a wedding is such a joyous occasion, starring in one should be blissful too. But I’m here to remind you that you have other options for tying the knot, and more than a few reasons for skipping the lavish formal wedding.

Here are some of the reasons I would certainly elope.

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