3 reasons open relationships may be key to lasting love

Some friends and I recently stumbled on the topic of monogamy as we listened to our girl vent about her messy breakup. In the midst of the bitch-fest, I asked what she would look for in the next guy, and her response started a heated debate: she said she was looking for her “person,” but that she wasn’t ready to restrict herself to sex with one dude for the rest of her life. While my friends and I discussed the concept of pledging one’s being and one’s vagina to one man, I found my arguments emerging in favor of open relationships.

Call me crazy, but here are a few reasons why I think it’s possible for couples to have open sex lives, while nurturing a loving relationship. Continue reading

4 telltale signs he’s now officially your boyfriend

4 telltale signs he's now your boyfriend // A Light Edit

In decades past, when a girl graduated from prospect to girlfriend, her guy would impart a token to mark the occasion: a promise ring, a class pin, a varsity jacket. But in a time when casual hookups, perpetual hangouts, and vague text messages abound, how’s a lady to know when that dude she’s seeing wants to make it official?

Although you can’t know for sure without inciting an awkward conversation about the parameters of your relationship, there are a few signs that indicate you two have become a real couple.

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5 subtle signs he wants to be just friends

5 subtle signs he wants to be just friends // A Light Edit

In a post-college age of co-ed gatherings, it can be difficult to suss out where you and that guy lie on the friendship/relationship continuum. Does your happy hour date qualify as a romantic-type date? Did that drunken hookup mean you’re on the fast-track to girlfriend status? Was your coworker’s roommate checking you out at that party?

While in most cases the guy you’re clicking with wants to knock boots, there are instances where you’re unknowingly in HIS friend zone. Here are some subtle signals he’s sending that indicate he considers you a platonic friend.

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8 reasons to elope

8 reasons to elope // a light edit

Logic would dictate that because attending a wedding is such a joyous occasion, starring in one should be blissful too. But I’m here to remind you that you have other options for tying the knot, and more than a few reasons for skipping the lavish formal wedding.

Here are some of the reasons I would certainly elope.

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6 reasons to choose a man like you would buy a home

6 reasons to choose a man like you would buy a home

As you claw your way up the rickety ladder to adulthood, you may look back on your poor choices and notice a pattern. You might discover you’ve made the same mistakes when picking a guy as you have when picking a home or apartment. If every bad apartment reminds us what to avoid when we someday buy a home, why don’t all our failed relationships teach us what to watch out for when picking a long-term mate?

Here are six considerations we bear in mind when shopping for a house that we should apply to our love lives.

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